As we look back on the past year, we remember the moments in time we spent with those we hold dear and we also acknowledge the situations we wish we could’ve somehow changed.

This time of year I always ponder how I can make the coming year better than the one before. How can I become a better me? Live a better life? Serve in a bigger way? Bring more peace and joy into my life and into the lives of others?

These thoughts and questions have been amplified over the past few days with the passing of a dear friend. As I grieve the loss of him, I also celebrate his life. You see, he was a man who brought more fun, kindness and laughter into this world. Even during his times of heartache and difficult challenges he added a breathe of fresh air to those he met. He touched many souls while on this earth and will be dearly missed by each and every one of them.

As I reflect on this time of new beginnings, the one thing I have come to realize is that change is constant throughout our life. Sometimes it is welcomed, other times it is not. But it is what we CHOOSE to DO in each moment that will define the path our life will take.

I can’t change what happened to my friend. I can only accept it, embrace the lessons he taught me and CHOOSE to move forward with love, laughter and gratitude in my heart.

So now I’m turning to you and your time of new beginnings. How are you going to CHOOSE to live this year and your life? Are you going to continue to hold on to the grudge you’ve kept with you for so long? Are you choosing to hold onto the pain, hurt and anger you are feeling towards another or even yourself?

Or….

Are you going to CHOOSE to accept what has happened as it is and recognize there is no joy in living in the past?

Right now, in this moment, you have the opportunity to let go of your heartache, your pain, your resentment and move into a place of forgiveness that honors the light within you, heals your hurt and aligns you with your Souls path and purpose.

In honor of this new time and in loving memory of my friend, I am offering a never seen before special on my Soul Profile and Healing Sessions at ONLY $99.

This incredible price will probably never be offered again, so I invite you to take advantage of this opportunity to heal spiritually and embrace more of who you are at Soul level.

I can honestly tell you, this one session alone changed my life for the better. It has taken me down the road leading me to my Soul’s purpose and cleared the way of obstacles that were previously in the way of living my best life.

By committing to this session, you are taking the next step that brings you closer to your Soul’s aligned path and clearing the way for YOUR better life. Don’t you deserve it?

Order your Soul Profile and Healing Session for Only $99 Right Now!

This special will only be good through Jan. 18, 2012, so be sure to reserve your space now.

If you have any other tips, suggestions or comments on this blog, I’d love to hear them!

Yup, my Vedic astrology reading with Carol Allen confirms it. (For those of you who don’t know Carol, she’s an amazing Vedic astrologer who specializes in love and relationships. No, I don’t get paid for saying that – she’s just that awesome and I want everyone to know about her.)

People, including YOU, have it “written in the stars” that you will be drawn to certain types of men, including my choice – the unavailable guys, which lead to BAD RELATIONSHIPS.

What does this mean?

Are you stuck choosing the same kind of man over and over? Are you destined to be with a complete and total jerk? Or or the flip side, alone the rest of your life because you prefer that over yet another BAD relationship?

My short answer. NO.

Let me dive a little deeper for you. I fully believe that we as Divine human beings have the power to change our beliefs, thoughts and patterns in order to co-create our life. Including, changing the sub-conscious attraction to a particular type of bad boy, which leads to the unhealthy toxic relationships.

Of course, all of the previous relationships have taught us something in our lives. That’s why they were in our reality to begin with – because our Soul desired to learn a lesson.

Don’t you think your Soul desires to find passionate love and happiness with a HEALTHY man? Of course it does! But until we are willing and able to acknowledge the patterns from our past AND do the work to clear those beliefs, we are unable to let go of the bad relationships and will continue to attract the same type of man from our past that looks different and may act different, but at the core, he will be fairly close to your ex and will exhibit behavior that drives you nuts.

I can hear you already….you’re asking “But HOW do I heal my beliefs and patterns to break free from bad relationships?” It might not be easy, but it is possible.

First, I invite you to download the new FREE Breakup Workbook that is available. This will assist you in opening up and uncovering the truth behind your breakup, while healing the pain that you are feeling around it. It is the essential first step to healing your heartbreak and recognizing patterns that are playing out in your life. You can download the Breakup Workbook here to your left.

Second, I invite you to reserve your personalized Soul Blueprint & Healing Session. This is unique to you where we come together over the phone and clear toxic, negative emotions and perform a deep Soul-level spiritual healing with wisdom gained through the Akashic Records. Third, pay attention to what potential partners say and how they ACT before you give them your heart.

If you have any other tips, suggestions or comments on this blog, I’d love to hear them! Post a comment on my blog here!

The magical holiday season is upon us… time for family, friends, and holiday cheer!

For many individuals, however, the holidays can be exceptionally overwhelming, stressful, and darn right painful.

With the holidays focused so much on spending time with loved ones, those that are facing the season after a breakup can be especially difficult and challenging. Trying to act joyful and full of love and laughter can simply be out of reach.

You are not alone. I know what it’s like and I want to help you.

You don’t have to suffer through the holidays by yourself.

This is your time to be heard and understood.

This is your time for healing.

Through the month of December I am offering 30 minute sessions for only $30!

During this session I offer you a safe, secure space to discuss and explore what is going on in your life, how a breakup or other circumstances in your life are currently affecting you or anything else that you would like assistance with during this holiday season. These sessions are designed to offer healing energies and clearings to help you cut through the pain, resentment, frustration, sadness you may be feeling, along with negative energies.

Book your Holiday Stress Buster Today!

30 Minutes for $30!

Isn’t it time you gave yourself the gift of healing your heart?

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That’s a question many of us face after a breakup or divorce. When we leave, we may have left in the hopes that HE will change into what we so desperately wanted while we were together. We may believe that if enough time passes, HE will come crawling back, with his tail between his legs begging for our forgiveness, promising us the stars.

OR

Maybe HE is part of your day – to – day life still. You have children together and in honor of your kids best interest you try desperately to get along with each other or worst case scenario, he pops in and out of your life leading you to believe there is still hope that you will one day have that dream that you’ve held onto throughout your relationship.

Do you jump every time the phone rings, hoping it’s HIM and he’s come to his senses and ready to walk the walk? Or does he constantly call trying to reel you back into the chaos?

Whatever circumstance you are facing right now in this moment, you must come to accept what is happening. That means, no more lying to yourself. This can be difficult for the women who are still holding on, but in order to really get what you want, you must honor yourself, your boundaries and discover exactly what it is you DO want and stop giving away your power to him.

First, if you are not writing in a journal, I highly recommend it. It allows the feelings, thoughts and emotions to flow freely from your energy onto paper, which releases a ton of that pent up anger, resentment and hurt.

Second, discover what YOU want. Stop trying not to pick a fight, or just allowing HIM to do as he pleases without giving you a choice. Once you know what YOU want from the relationship, stand your ground. It is YOUR responsibility to take your power back from him. If you want him back, then make sure he shows to you what you need and that he can offer that to you. If you want him out of your life, you can manifest that too and I have some great tips on that if you book a session and ask for assistance on manifesting your ex out of your life!

Third, start living YOUR life! Take up hobbies, join groups, meet new friends and get out and get moving! This one of the single best things to take your power back. Remember, it’s your life and you get to choose how you want to live each day! You are the creator, so go out and create!

If you have any other tips, suggestions or comments on your ex controlling your life, I’d love to hear them! Post a comment on my blog here!

Relationships are something we think about and discuss with others on a daily basis. When we are first in love, we are full of joy and can’t wait to tell another about our special guy and what incredible thing he did for us. But when things aren’t so good within a relationship, we don’t want to tell anyone. We feel that we are alone in our pain. We believe that there is something “wrong” with us so we go into hiding without a shoulder to cry on and only ourselves to talk to.

We move into fear thinking no one would believe our story if we told them or imagine them telling us it’s our fault and we should’ve known better. We believe they will think that we are the screw up and only deserve what we are getting. And of course we feel that they won’t understand.

I was there. My ex live-in boyfriend is an alcoholic. I believed things were good, until one day I realized I’d lost my smile, my laughter and myself. I stood as a victim, blaming the booze, blaming his job, blaming HIM.

I wasn’t ready to face the harsh world and what people would say if I told my truth. I didn’t want anyone to know that my relationship was to say the least – a disaster. I felt that he drank because of me. I believed I nagged too much, I yelled too much, if I only kept the house cleaner or the kids quieter he wouldn’t drink. Maybe if I was a better person or if he loved me more things would be different.

Eventually I hit rock bottom. I couldn’t hide my pain any longer. Nothing I was doing was “fixing” him. The drinking, the anger and the abuse only seemed to get worse. I slowly came out of hiding. First I joined a few Al-anon groups online. I hid behind an anonymous name, lurking in the background reading other people’s stories, afraid to step out with my own story believing someone will know it’s ME and I couldn’t live with that, it would be too embarrassing and shameful.

While reading the emails passed back and forth, I slowly began to realize, I wasn’t alone. Other people felt the same way. They felt less than, not good enough, like it was their fault they had found themselves in a bad relationship they couldn’t seem to get out of. No matter how much they KNEW the relationship dragged them down, they felt pulled to stay; hanging on to each little thread of love they thought was left in the relationship.

The hardest step for me in that journey was admitting to my parents I was living with an alcoholic and walking into an Al-anon meeting. I was in fear of being judged because after all, the alcoholic in my life wasn’t my husband, a child or even a parent. HE was a boyfriend I CHOSE to live with for a number of years. At any time, I could leave and be rid of the pain and heartache.

I felt no one would understand that I felt I had to stay. I wasn’t done with the relationship; I wasn’t ready to throw in the towel. I was in the middle of trying to save it…only now I realize I wasn’t saving him, or the relationship. I was saving me.

Throughout my journey, a new awareness began to unfold. The lessons I learned from that relationship have brought me to where I am today and I continually remind myself of them in the not-so-great moments. Today, I know that relationship was in my path for a purpose and I don’t regret staying with HIM as long as I did. There was meaning and reason behind it, even if at the time I couldn’t see it.

Know that whatever is in your past, present or future; there is a reason for it and no matter what did or has happened is alright for that situation or relationship.

Looking back on your past relationships? What was the hardest thing you had to face? How did you handle that and what gift came from it?

I’d love to hear your comments!

When a relationship doesn’t work the way you had hoped, you feel like your entire world is crumbling around you. All of a sudden you are a single mom trying to raise the kids, take care of a house, hold down a job and still trying to find time for yourself to heal from such a loss. You may feel like you are on a roller coaster ride, or the star of a juggling act in a circus unsure how to handle it all, doubting your decisions and feeling stressed, frustrated and overwhelmed.

Learning the art of surrendering is an enormous help in healing and letting go of some of the chaos you may be facing throughout the day. I can already hear a few of you saying, “How can I surrender? I have so much to do!” Allow me to remind you, when you surrender to “what is”, instead of trying to create what you envision “should be”, you allow yourself to flow with life instead of against it, creating less stress and urgency in your daily routine.

I’ve found the quickest way to accept what is, is to write how you are feeling right now. Make a list of what you are fearful of; all of the things you have to do and unsure how you will accomplish them; along with any worries or concerns that come to mind. This can include anything from your life such as your children, your finances and even your ex. Write everything down that you feel needs to come out without judging or editing it. The important thing is that you are able to become aware of what is going on in your life right now.

Set the list aside for at least 24 hours before you look at it again. After the allotted time has past, reflect on it with an open mind, trust in your reactions and responses. Then ask the Universe or your Higher Power for assistance with what you have written down while knowing you can not control all of it and surrender yourself, your worries and your problems. You may find it helpful to put the list in a special place knowing it is being taken care or you may picture yourself releasing it into the ocean watching it float away.  When it crosses your mind, picture yourself releasing it again, knowing it’s in the hands of something more powerful than you.

What are you surrendering today?

Truth be told, writing this isn’t an easy task. It’s difficult to speak out knowing anyone in the Universe can read about how much pain I felt, how stuck I was or how utterly confused my head and my heart was when (HE) came into my life. I’m not looking for glory, sympathy or anything in between. My only wish is that you will find some comfort and hope in knowing that you are not alone in the pain and confusion you feel over a relationship. You are not crazy because you can’t forget him or are doing things you never thought you were capable of. There is nothing “wrong” with you for “choosing” the relationship or (HIM).  When dealing with a Soul mate connection, all logical reasoning, everything “normal” and life as you know it goes out the window, but you can survive it and come out the other side.

I’ve been in bad relationships before. I always seemed to attract the unavailable men I thought I could “fix”. Leaving them wasn’t always easy, but I was able to move on with my life in a relativity short time period. That’s why I couldn’t quite figure out what was going on with (HIM).

I remember the night perfectly, down to every word that was said to those piercing eyes that seemed to look straight through me. For those hours, time froze. Little did I know, that was the evening my life would change forever.

I quickly moved into a whirlwind of happiness while I was with (HIM). I felt like a teenager, walking on clouds again. “This was it”, I thought, ” the man of my dreams”. I had finally got it right and found “The One”. Everything was so perfect, so magical.

My fairy tale soon ended though when the man I believed I was destined to be with turned around and ran the opposite direction faster than I could blink. I was devastated.

I analyzed everything trying to figure out what I had done wrong. Morning, noon, night he was on mind. I was so angry with (HIM), then I was angry at myself for caring so much and not being able to stop obsessing over (HIM). There was a fight between my head and my heart, with my head telling me one thing and my heart feeling something completely different. I began thinking something was “wrong” with me. I doubted my choices, my feelings and everything else about myself and my life.

I didn’t understand what was going on. I was so frustrated, so angry, so confused and sunk into a depression, but I still felt this undeniable love and forgiveness towards (HIM). I was a mess and found myself unable to get out of a cycle that kept repeating itself. I felt trapped, unable to move forward, unwilling to let go, clinging onto something that felt “right” in every possible way, but also felt like it was destroying me on levels I didn’t know existed.

I was lost, stuck and hurting terribly. I remember doing anything and everything to try to forget (HIM), to bury the memories, the pain, the need. I thought I was literally going crazy and the pain I felt was unbearable, leaving me even more confused.

After a long and difficult struggle, I was ready to be rid of the hurt, the hoping, the questions and it didn’t matter how I was going to get there.

That was the turning point for me. It wasn’t always easy; but it was worth it. After uncovering the energy behind the connection between myself and (HIM), I was able to learn how to manage my own energy and build a foundation for myself. This allowed me to discover the truth about the relationship, unearth more of who I am and become more connected to the Universe and Divinity. I found a place where I was able to move forward, find clarity, peace of mind, joy and laughter; with or without the (HIM) in my life.

If you are missing someone so badly, feeling confused and hurting like you’ve never hurt before, my heart goes out to you, because I know what a terrible place that can be. Know that you are not alone, you are not crazy, you don’t have to feel bad about yourself or judge how you are feeling and what is happening in your life; you are going through a transformation and you can have peace, clarity, and joy back in your life again as I have.

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