That’s a question many of us face after a breakup or divorce. When we leave, we may have left in the hopes that HE will change into what we so desperately wanted while we were together. We may believe that if enough time passes, HE will come crawling back, with his tail between his legs begging for our forgiveness, promising us the stars.
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Maybe HE is part of your day – to – day life still. You have children together and in honor of your kids best interest you try desperately to get along with each other or worst case scenario, he pops in and out of your life leading you to believe there is still hope that you will one day have that dream that you’ve held onto throughout your relationship.
Do you jump every time the phone rings, hoping it’s HIM and he’s come to his senses and ready to walk the walk? Or does he constantly call trying to reel you back into the chaos?
Whatever circumstance you are facing right now in this moment, you must come to accept what is happening. That means, no more lying to yourself. This can be difficult for the women who are still holding on, but in order to really get what you want, you must honor yourself, your boundaries and discover exactly what it is you DO want and stop giving away your power to him.
First, if you are not writing in a journal, I highly recommend it. It allows the feelings, thoughts and emotions to flow freely from your energy onto paper, which releases a ton of that pent up anger, resentment and hurt.
Second, discover what YOU want. Stop trying not to pick a fight, or just allowing HIM to do as he pleases without giving you a choice. Once you know what YOU want from the relationship, stand your ground. It is YOUR responsibility to take your power back from him. If you want him back, then make sure he shows to you what you need and that he can offer that to you. If you want him out of your life, you can manifest that too and I have some great tips on that if you book a session and ask for assistance on manifesting your ex out of your life!
Third, start living YOUR life! Take up hobbies, join groups, meet new friends and get out and get moving! This one of the single best things to take your power back. Remember, it’s your life and you get to choose how you want to live each day! You are the creator, so go out and create!
If you have any other tips, suggestions or comments on your ex controlling your life, I’d love to hear them! Post a comment on my blog here!
